When I was a kid, I used to dislike women who remained silent against the abuse they faced. I always thought, Why aren't they fighting back? Why don't they just go to the police? And if nothing else, why can't they divorce their husbands and move away with their children? I believed they could easily live separately without much help and without facing too many problems.These thoughts often made me question their worth.

As I grew up and developed my own understanding of society, I realized how wrong I was. My way of thinking back then was no different than asking an asthma patient why he's having trouble breathing when there's so much air around us.

I understood that it's not the women who are avoiding change—it's the society that has built a system so rigid that a divorced woman is still seen as a bad omen in many places.

They’ve created an environment where it’s somehow considered normal for a woman to face daily abuse from her husband and in-laws, all while silently serving them. And she does it while carrying invisible, brutal scars in her heart and soul—scars that never allow her to be the same person she once was.

And if any woman dares to step out of that toxic environment, society is quick to shame her, or worse, emotionally manipulate her into reconsidering—for the sake of her children, or to avoid “dishonouring” her parents.

These women struggle to even get a flat, let alone find decent work.

And if they do manage to access basic necessities, their reputation is never the same again. They are loathed, pitied, harassed—but rarely admired for their bravery in leaving behind abuse.

Society has failed in its humanity to such an extent that if a couple lives together without marriage, it's labeled "against our culture."

But when a woman is beaten, humiliated, or emotionally tortured in her marriage—then what? Is that part of your culture too?

Or is it suddenly “not your business” anymore—because you feel helpless when it’s time to help, but powerful when it’s time to judge someone for not matching your conservative values?

And sadly, because of this same hypocrisy, men are now becoming silent victims too. The same society that ignores an abused woman will mock a man who is emotionally or physically abused by his wife.

Yes, the treatment is different. There’s still a vast gap between how a divorced man is treated versus how a divorced woman is treated. But that gap doesn’t justify abuse in any form, towards anyone.

Suffering silently just to “save face” in society is not noble—it’s foolish.

And society needs to wake up to that truth.

My concern is simple: Why?
Why do we need to fight for our image when all we get in return is pain?
And fight against who? Society?

We are living in the 21st century, and yet the mindset of people still lacks basic human values. Even animals know what to do when they’re in danger. But humans? We are so trapped in outdated thinking that it’s hard to tell if we’re truly in the modern age—or just pretending to be.

No amount of technological progress can replace emotional intelligence.
Empathy is the foundation of any functioning society.

And we must understand—we don’t need to protect our faces from something we didn’t cause.
We should be raw. We should be vocal.
We should be brave enough to speak up against any form of injustice happening around us—or to us.

And as a society, we must ensure that basic needs, dignity, and support are given to those who need them—without conditions.